Don't Cry Over Spilled Milk

Don't cry over spilled milk, hm...

So if the milk is spilled, how am I supposed to feel? I know I should clean up after it, but how else would I feel other than... sad? Maybe? Am I allowed that feeling? And if I feel very sad, can I cry?

Let's say someone betrays you. Okay, so you decide you won't be friends with them any more. But how would you feel?

So you have experienced injustice. Is feeling angry okay? So angry that you need to let the flame out of your mouth and you talk about the injustice incessantly for a few days, with a few friends. They tell you, "so just get over it..." But what does "get over it" mean? Not feeling bad feelings? Not feeling at all? Because when there is injustice, we just don't feel any positive feelings.

If and when I look at the divorce paper and the "settlement agreement" and feel misunderstood and sad, will you tell me, "What's done is done. No use feeling sad for what's done." Am I supposed to just forget about it and feel nothing? How does one only feel good feelings and when it comes to the ugly side of life, one simply feels numb? Nothing. Is human heart such that we can tell it to go into non-operation mode when it's time for sadness and anger and hurt and disappointment and all those other negative, but nonetheless powerful feelings? Can we choose to only feel happiness and not sorrow?

Crying is no use, people say. Crying doesn't solve problems. Crying can't bring the dead back. Crying can't make bad things go away. Crying can't save your marriage. Crying can't do a lot of things. Crying makes one feel weak; no one wants to feel weak so we tell ourselves we shouldn't cry. But we shed tears because we feel too sad on the inside. Big drops of sadness well up in our heart and it overflows into our eyes and tears come out. How do you stop the internal container of sadness from overflowing when something very sad happens in life? Like when someone dies. Like when someone leaves. Like when you love someone but can't be with them.

Crying can't solve any problem. But crying is what humans do. A real person cries. And laughs. If someone only laughs, he is only half alive.

When i feel sad, I am going to cry. As simple as that.